Pretty but single; whose fault is that?
Tuesday, August 25, 2015
Jojo: Hmmm my
sister, brothers are blind o! They are not just blind, they are lazy! They
don't want to chase a lady, they just want you on a platter of gold.
Kiki: Oh we'll you
have a point but I am sure there are still some good ones out there?
Speaking of good brothers, how is that guy in your office, Tola or is it Tobi?
Speaking of good brothers, how is that guy in your office, Tola or is it Tobi?
Jojo: *rolls eyes*
that short guy?!? Abeg! Plus I can't do office romance o, not my thing.
Kiki: Ok.*sighs* uhm I have to go now! Meeting up with my hubby for lunch in
30minutes.
Talk to you later Jojo.
Talk to you later Jojo.
Jojo: Bye darling.
Greet oga for us o........*hangs up*
Jojo is a Christian.
She is a 29 year old lady, successful banker, lives in her own apartment,
recently got herself another car.
recently got herself another car.
With a sweet caramel
complexion, powerful 1.80m (5ft’9) and nice hips, she is definitely a
head turner whenever she walks into any room.
head turner whenever she walks into any room.
Just a little
issue, she is not yet married.....errrrm rhedruby why should that be an issue,
Must we all be
married? Is there any big deal in marriage?
Reader: Oh please,
don’t sound so Nigerian!!!! I love my space, privacy and singleness.....
can't deal with any man's crap behaviour.
can't deal with any man's crap behaviour.
Rhedruby: Good luck
getting a man with that attitude!
Reader: *screams* I
don't need a man.
Rhedruby: Oh my
dear, there is a man that needs you. You see! God ordained marriage for
you...yes you! and a man to come together to fulfill purpose, raise godly
children and for
sexual pleasure. He intends that the two of you would have the "doubler effect". He also
expects that you have sex only in marriage.....there ain't no intentional baby mama situation here hunnie!
sexual pleasure. He intends that the two of you would have the "doubler effect". He also
expects that you have sex only in marriage.....there ain't no intentional baby mama situation here hunnie!
So beautiful sister
in The Lord, lol! Bring your head back here!
Marriage is not a
punishment, it is God’s gift to us as His children.
Reader: *rolls
eyes*
Rhedruby: I feel
your pain though!
Society
puts pressure on ladies to get married on or before a certain age. This pressure
produces different results/responses/reactions; some ladies become desperate and scared,
some revolt or completely shut their minds off love and marriage because they cannot be
controlled by some sick and backward societal expectation. Jeez!
produces different results/responses/reactions; some ladies become desperate and scared,
some revolt or completely shut their minds off love and marriage because they cannot be
controlled by some sick and backward societal expectation. Jeez!
Even
some churches are not helping.....you see captions like.....I must receive my
husband or I die.......my year of divine marriage......
People
miss the mark on this as a lot of people do not realize that one ought to
follow God and His principles because He ordained marriage. God puts no
pressure on us nor ridicules us,
rather gives us the blueprint on how to have a fabulous life; marriage inclusive! Your
rather gives us the blueprint on how to have a fabulous life; marriage inclusive! Your
life is
not tied to anyone rather God wants us to relate with each other and not ride
solo.
Rhedruby: Lol! So
back to the matter, you have it all going on girl, why are you single?
Reader: Ok o! Well
my aunts say I am picky. *shrugs*
Rhedruby: Are you?
Reader: Ha!!!! Who
isn't? If you like don't be picky, I can't marry just anybody now.
Trust me he has to be 6ft and above, handsome, rich, generous, respectful, faithful, funny,
powerful dresser, perfect gentleman, sensitive to my needs, clean, patient, great listener,
humble, loves my body, top notch personal hygiene.....
Trust me he has to be 6ft and above, handsome, rich, generous, respectful, faithful, funny,
powerful dresser, perfect gentleman, sensitive to my needs, clean, patient, great listener,
humble, loves my body, top notch personal hygiene.....
I mean don’t even think about talking to me if
you have a funky/nasty breathe! Is that too
much to ask?
much to ask?
Maybe I should just
date a married
man they seem to understand our needs better.
Rhedruby: It is
good to have standards and yes, physical attraction is important but that is
not all to it. You must understand yourself (know what you want, really need
and your life
goals, know the kind of man that can help you achieve those goals and purpose; determine
what you can stand or can't deal with as regards behavior and personal qualities)
goals, know the kind of man that can help you achieve those goals and purpose; determine
what you can stand or can't deal with as regards behavior and personal qualities)
Also know that an
imperfect lady can't be seeking a perfect man.......the list of qualities goes
on and on......
on and on......
We could be very unrealistic as no man has all the qualities;
just like you have your
imperfections, he does too you know!!!
imperfections, he does too you know!!!
There ought to be a
balance between real needs and fantasy. There are qualities that can be built
or improved upon.
A lot of our ‘ideal’
men are married. Some other woman has added some things to the man,
she has worked on him/help him improve on his character (dress sense, emotions as the case may be) to help him become a better person, the better person you see now and think has
always been perfect from birth!
she has worked on him/help him improve on his character (dress sense, emotions as the case may be) to help him become a better person, the better person you see now and think has
always been perfect from birth!
Go get your own
work(man) hunnie! Keep your eyes and hands off another woman’s
hardwork.
hardwork.
Plus if you talk to
that woman, (his wife) he is still not perfect, he just appears to be perfect
to you!
to you!
Reader: Hmmm! Long story!! Anyway I get but honestly o it is even hard to meet a nice
guy these days. Like they do not exist anymore. How do these ladies meet these men by theway?. I am fed up with all these rude and insensitive guys around these days. Don’t even get me started with all their pick-up lines!
guy these days. Like they do not exist anymore. How do these ladies meet these men by theway?. I am fed up with all these rude and insensitive guys around these days. Don’t even get me started with all their pick-up lines!
Sickening!!!!
Some don't even
know how to call/keep up a conversation, only bbm messages....hiss!!!
Rhedruby: You might
not need to meet someone new. I am sure you have very good and
nice male friends, you know those ones you 'friend-zoned. You probably met him years ago
and He might have shown some form of interest or fondness for you but you shut it down
saying you are just friends.
nice male friends, you know those ones you 'friend-zoned. You probably met him years ago
and He might have shown some form of interest or fondness for you but you shut it down
saying you are just friends.
You must
understand that when it comes to marriage God does not put it out of your
reach. Someone you went to school with, someone you work with or have worked
with, a friend or
relation of your colleague, a friend of a friend, a project partner might be “the one”.
relation of your colleague, a friend of a friend, a project partner might be “the one”.
Someone in your catchment
area as well.
The kind of man you are fantasizing about may never come because he is out of your reach
and you are “out of his”, or errrr DOES NOT EXIST!! So let us be realistic!
The kind of man you are fantasizing about may never come because he is out of your reach
and you are “out of his”, or errrr DOES NOT EXIST!! So let us be realistic!
It does not have to be
magical or fairy-tale like, marriage is real and so is the process of it.
It might just be as natural as a Hi or Hello.
It might just be as natural as a Hi or Hello.
Reader: Oh my gosh!
You are speaking of George. We were super close before he got
married. Wonderful man! So sad he got away.
married. Wonderful man! So sad he got away.
I see your point Rhed.
Rhedruby: I am glad
you do.
Your character as a woman
is also very important, of course it is for a man but even the bible emphasizes
on virtue for the woman. You ought to always be good and kind!
You are not working on your
character just because you are positioning to meet a good
Man, but because your
Christianity should be expressed positively in good character and
not just in mere
proclamation of Christianity; God requires it of you. Are you arrogant, or
quick tempered, can’t be corrected, unfriendly, rude or nasty? Ditch those things Sis!
quick tempered, can’t be corrected, unfriendly, rude or nasty? Ditch those things Sis!
Honey! No one is following
you from your village o!! Good and Godly Character is important.
Let us develop
it.
Ha Yes! Stop sleeping around. Keep your legs closed and
head up sis!!!
Don't be the product to be sampled by everyone.
Remember that
whatsoever a man sows, he (she) will reap it. If you want God to give you a
good man, you have to be good too, people will generally talk but don't let it be a general
conclusion of you been evil.
good man, you have to be good too, people will generally talk but don't let it be a general
conclusion of you been evil.
Always pray and be
positive. Desperation and negativity are very evident in human
behaviour.
Learn to cook and clean.
behaviour.
Learn to cook and clean.
Don't
kill yourself and stop that negative talk! It is repulsive
hunnie.
Smile!!! It works
like magic.
Finally be patient
and happy.
Check out these scriptural references-
Genesis 24:1 to 11
Proverbs 31
Luke 2:52
Ruth 1: 16-17
Malachi 2: 10-11;16
Proverbs 14: 4
Genesis 24:1 to 11
Proverbs 31
Luke 2:52
Ruth 1: 16-17
Malachi 2: 10-11;16
Proverbs 14: 4
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4 comments
we pray they listen....nice one here
ReplyDeleteLol. Nice write up!!
ReplyDeleteYou didn't include the part of how some of these guys literally run so far as soon as they hear sex isn't inclusive in the relationship. And you go all "wait but he's been liking me for months now, and I too, him; what just happened". Lol. Which makes it seem like relationships these days have weird priorities too. The relationship that stems from boils being able to form this best friendship, some sort of attraction, with a guy who has common goals with you can be quite hard too. Takes the grace of God and a lot of what you said too. :)
www.eclecticstyle.me
oh wow!
Deletethis is very apt!
thank you for this addition
this is very deep.... deep and a sensitive issue but intelligently done
ReplyDeletealot of ladies are too picky and are looking for what does not exist. some can't cook and they are looking for perfect men.
i would send this to some ladies in my office, i hope it helps them.
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