Sounds like a course in First year of
Finishing school ,lol!
Okkkk so let me confess, I was to
deliver a presentation on this same topic in church; i ended up delivering
another topic so i thought to share this one here.
So ladies, get your pen and paper,
ipads, tabs and LET US GET DOWN TO BUSINESS! HEHE
DEFINITION
It is the
graceful and elegant bearing in a person.
A state of
balance or equilibrium.
Synonyms:
Stability,
Grace, Elegance, Calmness
The book of
Esther is a perfect biblical reference to the topic.
HISTORY
OF POISE DEVELOPMENT
In the
past, young women went to charm school or finishing school to learn how to sit,
stand, walk and even dance.
•All princesses had a
"Deportment" trainer in all aspects of social graces. Just like in
the movie The Princess Dairies, did you watch that?
•This trainer has existed since a long time ago, even during
Biblical times. We can see its existence from the book of Esther in the Bible.
MISCONCEPTIONS
•Over confidence equals poise
•All stylish individuals are poised.
•I can develop it in a day.
•Oh they are born with it!
Poise;
just like any other human trait can be developed.
HOW
TO!
Our goal is
to communicate composure, dignity, respect and graceful movement through
poise.
Here are
some basic tips on how to develop poise.
•Dress Your Best
This is to always give yourself
confidence that you already look great. There is a psychological effect when
you do that. Your body responds to your thoughts and that influences how you
feel. How you feel projects how you look!
•Study the Way that You Walk
There is a misconception that ladies
think a beautiful walk is the fashion-model strut, like on a runway. Get rid of
the supermodel walk. It is reserved for very few occasions (like if you're a
fashion model working the runway), and there's no place for it in your everyday
walk.
To be honest with you, after so many
years, I'm still working on my walk! I have made progress in correcting some
bad habits. So be patient with yourself.
·
WORK ON YOUR POSTURE
• Videotape
yourself/practice with your mirror.
• Exercise
for Poise and Posture
• Keep
your arms to the side but don't stick your arms like glue to your sides. If
your shoulders are hunched upwards, that's too close.
• Never
rush or be in a hurry.
• Smile
much but laugh softly
• Watch
Your Hands - Do Not Touch Or Fidget
Some
of us have problems keeping our hands to ourselves. The problem of fidgety
hands and wanting to touch everything signifies an internal problem of being
'unable to relax'. If you want to develop poise, train yourself to keep them
relaxed and do yourself. Don't be digging into your purse, looking at your
phone every 30 seconds, touching your face, hair. It is good to practice
restraint.
• Have
A Deep Respect Of Others and Things Around You
GESTURES
THAT DEMOLISHES POISE
Picking
on a scab/pimple.
Picking your nose.
Slapping
the back of someone when she laughs or by clapping her hands together in a loud
sound.
Sluggish
walking by dragging her feet
Swinging
her arms like a marching soldier.
Wiping
their teeth with their tongue.
Resting
your head or chin on your hands and elbows.
Leaning
on the walls of lift, counters etc.
Putting
a finger in her mouth to get rid of food.
Scratching
and/or fidgeting
Pulling
up her bra straps
Examining
her teeth in her compact mirror in a public place other than the bathroom
Putting
make up in public (other than a quick dash of lipstick after meals)
Staring
into space
Keeping
her mouth slightly open
Biting
her fingernails
Sitting
with her legs apart
Underwear
exposed (or bottom)
Bending
over and locking your knees instead of being your knees to pick up something
Combing
her hair or fiddling with her hair in a public place.
Talking
loudly
Stirring
her coffee or tea with a tea spoon loudly
Lying
on the floor
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