THE RHEDRUBY: August 2013

Premarital sex

#nosexbeforemarriage Sunday, August 18, 2013

Hoses 4;6. It is God's wish that you know and understand sex. His words includes amazing abundance of information about sex. He is also very protective about sex because he knows us, created us and the sex drive, Gen 2;7. It is important for us to know that God has the final word on any issue including sex. He created the world and is all sovereign and His word (the bible) has absolute AUTHORITY AND FINALITY.

In Deuteronomy 22;28-29 God deals with sexual intercourse between two unmarried people who mutually agree to have intercourse,In our present time they say "consenting adults". This part of scripture says the man humbles the woman, Message translation says "grabs and rapes" another says 'violates'. Sex is soo powerful it could humiliate or violate and on another hand give pleasure. Sex bonds a man and a woman as ONE flesh, Gen 2;24. As far as God is concerned you are One with whomever you have sex with.

Sex involves the body, soul, and spirit. It involves the mind, emotions, will (soul) the sexual organs (physical body) and of course the spirit since we are spirit beings.

God intends that sex should be an expression of love, a joining force, a pleasure agent and a procreation 'tool' to couples ONLY IN THE CONFINES of MARRIAGE and HOLY MATRIMONY.

Not only is premarital sex Biblically wrong, but it is dangerous. In the matter of minutes within a sexual encounter- your life can be cut short years. Sexually Transmitted Diseases are not a myth- they exist. In Africa alone, more than 17 million have died from AIDS and another 25 million are infected with the HIV virus. Not only could you possibly infect yourself, but imagine if you or your partner got pregnant and passed this incredible disease onto a child.

No one ever said it would be easy, and my suggestion to you would be to set up some boundaries. Some people have said that it all started with "making out/kissing". If that is where you start to lose control, you need to cut it short way before then.(read the previous post on kissing for more insight). This will have to be a life-changing decision, and you will not be able to do it on your own. Surround yourself with Godly friends that you can talk to, and make sure they will hold you accountable. Most importantly- talk to God! As long as you keep that communication going, He will give you strength!

Ultimately- you are a child of God, and He has given us sex as something to enjoy as husband and wife. Imagine how wonderful it will be to share all of yourself, without feeling any guilt or remorse. You also can feel better about yourself, knowing that you had enough respect for yourself, your future spouse, and God, to wait.

I recommend you read these books

1. Sex-straight talk by Sam Adeyemi

2. 60 things God says about sex by Lester Sumrall

3. I loved a girl by Walter Trobisch

4. Human reproduction and sexual behavior by C. W Lloyd

HAVE AN AWESOME WEEK.

CELEBRATE YOU!!

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Kissing before Marriage? YAY or NAY!!?

#whatdoesthebiblesay Sunday, August 11, 2013

I know what God says about sex before marriage. My question is -- what about kissing? Doesn't kissing lead to impure thoughts? What do we believe God has to say about kissing before marriage?

Uhmmmm I've seen both sides taken within the Christian church. A wonderful church that I attended and that i am a part of very strongly teaches that christian couples, still dating of course, should avoid kissing and your first kiss should happen at the altar. Now, that wouldn't be me. O.k it could be me, LOL! but no one would love to stand up in the church and say OH please lets do it! We all want to and we are all young with racing hormones. Also some people would say IT's my life and no one should tell me how to act with my partner but that is the joy of being a CHRISTIAN ;), we have to be accountable and every part of our lives- we ought to live by instruction; we have to follow the bible, the leading of the HOLY SPIRIT or for issues not directly spoken about in the bible we follow our church doctrine.The Bible says, whatsoever is not of faith is sin. So, maybe we need to get honest with ourselves. If we can do that (kissing) in faith and believe that it will not go farther, then by all means do. But if we in our own hearts, have reservations about it and say 'I can't do that in faith', 'I'm going to start having impure thoughts', then my body is going to start kicking in and desire something more than just a kiss, then I think we need to say o.k I'm going to build a wall here and I'm going to make it known that kissing is not acceptable for me.

Another issue that was raised in a church and taught by a female preacher whose ministry was on single and married (she is resting with the lord now) was that kissing isn't encouraged or that kind of activity unless we know that there is going to be a lifelong bond. Part of kissing is also sharing, sharing of your innermost being. And you may not want to do that unless you are sure that this person is going to be with you for a lifetime.

A final point i want to raise is in 1 Thessalonians 5;22, 'flee all appearances of evil' a translation of the bible, message translation to be specific says avoid anything tainted with evil, so if to you its evil or bad or the spirit of God pricks you when you do it, PLEASE AVOID IT. The thing is that it may not be evil or bad in itself but it leads or could lead to the greater evil (sex and all forms of sexual activities including thoughts) so its important to set standards in this area. Let us work at pleasing God even in what looks like the smallest or most stupid thing.

HAVE A SPLENDID WEEK!

CELEBRATE YOU!!!!!

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RELATIONSHIPS- ITS PURPOSE

#itspurpose Saturday, August 03, 2013

hello God-fam,

Over the years i have always loved to read on love and relationships. i was always interested in my friends relationships and giving out advice on what i had researched on, read or experienced. the passion moved to me writing and i wrote a couple of articles in some magazines and i had a personal mission to help people especially Christians including myself on relationships.

So i decided or let me say i was inspired, lol, to share some of them with you here. Love and relationships originated from God and we cannot but talk about it in helping people grow in God. Enjoy!

Relationships could be casual like for friendship, official for business, academic or for corporate purposes and romanticfor love, commitment and companionship. Most activities be it business, social or religious cannot be carried out with human inter relationship.It is important for us to understand that there is a purpose for relationships. An understanding of this fact would probably change your perspective on relationships; bring to light the BIG PICTURE that God himself intended. Did you know that God created humans for the purpose of establishing relationships? His sole aim for creating man was for relationship with Himself and other men. Man was not meant to work in isolation.

It had been ordained in God’s creation plan for humans to be together and relate with one another especially for companionship. In Genesis 2: 18 God said “it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him”.

God created relationships to kill the human’s selfish nature. Man would have grown terribly self- centred if he could do everything and achieve everything by him self without external help or effort from other men. He would have raised himself above God and not recognize the presence of a supreme being since he could do all by himself.

God also created romantic relationships to teach man how to love, commit to another and share life’s dreams, goals and visions with someone (the partner) so he put the need in man for love, commitment and companionship, a need for relationships, romantic relationships so he created attraction. The sole purpose of attraction was to bring the man and woman together with the desire to spend their lives together. He intended that visions, dreams and goals would be achieved by man and woman together in marriage.

Procreation was also in God’s plan but only in the content of marriage. He intended that the man and woman would come together in marriage and give birth to children, who would also find partners and give birth, continuing the cycle and achieving God’s plan of multiplying and replenishing the earth.

God created us to work together, be together, and love each other. No man is to be alone (by him self or without help). We are all expected and created to live our lives or share our lives with others.

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