Oral sex! Good or not?
Wednesday, April 29, 2015
Hello people, how are you doing?
It has been a while I did a post on love/relationships and the likes. *giggles*
I remember my friend's reaction when I told him I was going to do this post.
It was something like this
Lol! I guess you probably have the same expression.
I personally enjoy sex related topics, yes sister Itunu does too! The deal is just to keep it in the right context.
Pleaseeeeeeee o! Everything here is for the context of marriage. I believe in the bible principle of staying pure(sexually inactive) till marriage, so if you are not married like myself, please read, keep knowledge and practical exercise *winks* till after marriage.
Hebrews 13:4
Hebrews 13:4
"Marriage is honorable in every way, so husbands and wives should be faithful to each other. God will judge those who commit sexual sins, especially those who commit adultery"
Now with that relevant information in mind, LET'S TALK!
Should married couples engage in oral sex? especially Christians!
The Bible approach.
The bible does not give a direct response or rebuke to this; as there is no place in the bible that says...Hey! let not your mouth be found in their partner's privates!
It does not also give a direct go ahead, like say....Oh yea children of Israel, thou shall fix thy attention unto the sensitive parts of thy spouse; wherein thou shalt receive pleasure!
So what do we do?
Let us check out Proverbs 5:19 which says, "Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight. Be intoxicated always with her love"
In the normal order, breasts are used to nurture and feed a newly born baby. YES! That is the normal order, lol!
This scripture however describes the breasts as a sexual organ. So like the buttocks and lips which are not even mentioned here, they are sexual organs.
Hello brother, please how exactly do her(YOUR WIFE) breasts fill you or like some bible translations say 'SATISFY YOU'
It may not be directly stated but I believe not just your hands are at work here, the mouth may be too. Yes? No?
EHHHHHHHHHH! Miss rhedruby please stop twisting the bible o! *you say*
But really if the bible recognizes the desire of a man to consume their partner's body so maybe, just maybe it might not be ideal to condemn it out rightly.
The hands and lips are not anatomical the same so of course I could be WRONG but I am just trying to see a big picture of God's general intent of sex in marriage which is mutual pleasure between the partners.
I could also annoy or please you by mentioning this scripture.
1st Corinthians 7:3-5
"The man should give his wife all that is her right as a married woman, and the wife should do the same for her husband: 4 for a girl who marries no longer has full right to her own body, for her husband then has his rights to it, too; and in the same way the husband no longer has full right to his own body, for it belongs also to his wife. 5 So do not refuse these rights to each other. The only exception to this rule would be the agreement of both husband and wife to refrain from the rights of marriage for a limited time, so that they can give themselves more completely to prayer. Afterwards, they should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt them because of their lack of self-control"
This scripture leads me to the next points.
Harmful, unhealthy or Out of love?
Look at how the bible states that the wife/husband do not have FULL right to their bodies again. The partner has right to it too................... hmmmn ok so let us do some allocation here. The wife has 30% right to her body and the husband has 70% right to HER body and vice versa.
I still have some form of right to my body(it should not be violated by my partner even though he has maximum share interest in it)
So according to the bible, if I feel sick, hurt, irritated, disgusted, depressed, emotionally drained because I have to put my mouth somewhere in my husband's body, IT IS WRONG!
PRAISE GOD O! Someone is finally happy!
If it causes harm, degradation to your partner, it is ungodly. This could also answer the question why anal sex is not encouraged. God intends sex to be pleasurable, desirable and a fulfilling experience for the partners, anything asides that? No! Nay! Zilch!
Did you know that Oral sex could cause throat cancer?
Haaaa!
Oral sex with 6 or more partners raises risk of throat cancer, said one study.
But rhedruby, this study does not affect us now, we are Christians, it is just one partner! Even if I had sexual relations with a billion people; I have received the life of Christ, also now married, it doesn't count! I am a new person now!
Is it done out of love?
Think to yourself.... am I out to satisfy and please my partner of just get my needs and demands met yo!
Church beliefs and doctrine
Some churches or spiritual fellowships and gatherings out rightly speak against it.
It is a sin to some, others are open to the idea.
This issue is tricky or dicey just like the one described in the epistles where some Christians felt it wrong to eat meat and others felt it was alright to eat everything because it is created by God.
I believe in doctrines but we must understand that most doctrines are man-made rules on appropriate mode of behaviour.
I do not believe too much stringent rules should be put on married couples' sexual life.
Couples should decide in love and godly maturity what works or will work for them.
phewwwwwwwwwww!
*cleans sweat*
So those are my thoughts people.
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28 comments
very insightful. personally i don't see anything wrong with oral sex as long as it is in the confines of marriage.
ReplyDeletetrue! thanks for reading!
DeleteReading through was like you were practically gisting, the introduction , funny expressions and ability to balance with the word of God is quite amazing.
ReplyDeleteIn the context of marriage, if that's one of her main love language or love making fantasy, then id be doing a very great mistake if I don't give her,
PS...She but be very neat though
looool! thank you banky! hmmmmn another point I missed out.
DeleteVery good personal hygiene is important.
Very well written, I enjoyed reading this.
ReplyDeleteI must say not everyone will agree though. I can't wait to see comments on this one.
thank you for reading.
Deleteoh yes!
I heard a preacher one time praying for forgiveness for a certain married couple because they engage in oral sex. if I can use the word 'engage'
different belief system.hehe
Yeah Itunu I totally agree. Whatever married couples do with each other (in modesty) is holy and acceptable to God. Once its in Gods will, it becomes pure and the last i checked, Marriage is God's design. So whether the sex is oral or written.. Lol, they will pass the 'course' by satisfying each other. Erm... I meant INTERcourse.
ReplyDeleteloool @oral or written.
Deletevery well said.
thanks for stopping by
Lol..... This is very interesting and you are a clown. Like you said I don't think married couples should be given rules about their sexual life. Besides I don't think God would not see whatever they do in their Holy Matrimony as wrong so I would not condemn the 'act'.... Hehehe. The only time it becomes a problem 'in my mind' is if one partner is disgusted by the idea and absolutely refuses it. Sexual relation in marriage should be pleasurable and if one spouse feels obliged to engage in it just because the other wants it, then it takes away the pleasure. Yes I know some would say marriage is about sacrifices but hey it shouldn't make the other feel degraded or more like a subject who just has to give in. However, no spouse should make the other feel disatisfied about their sexual life in marriage. You don't want to be married and be wishing you could do this or that...... Red flag! Don't alert the devil!!!!. So I personally think the way out for couples with constrasting views about the topic is good communication and prayer in other to reach a compromise.
ReplyDeleteoh wow! !! well said!
Deletethank you soo much
Itunu this is a very sexy post o. Lol. Men especially need to be aware of d fact that their body belongs to the woman because some of them take this submission thing the wrong way. They believe they can take as much and shouldn't give just as much. Anyway nice post..
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I totally agree with you. it has to be mutual and in love.
DeleteThank you for pointing this out.
ReplyDeleteThank you Miss Itunu for this post and I agree that whether it is oral or practical it shouldn't degrade the either the husband or wife and it should be acceptable before God.....and I am going to encourage married couples to read it especially Christian ladies who just got married and also as a virgin...because I have heard most of them talk out of fear about this whole oral sex issue whether they should be involved/practice it. So thank you for the post because I have something to refer them to.
Regards,
Toluwanimi
awwwwww thank you so much! glad this has helped.
DeleteNice Piece. Whatever rocks your boat though....so long its inline with the word of God. Mutual agreement is also key. Insightful! #Gracie#
ReplyDeletetrue true!
Deletethank you :)
Sheagle! Nice post...interestingly, there are quite a number of life issues dat the bible is silent about and one of which happens to be Oral sex. On such an issue, i prefer to view it from a conscience perspective. If a person does anything with his/ her partner and the conscience doesnt prick him/her, why not? You might carry on. But if it pricks you, Caution! Caution! Caution! Dont take my word for it; it is just my humble submission.
ReplyDeleteyes one must not feel guilt but pleasure.
Deletethank you!
Great thoughts and perspective...thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteThank you! Appreciate it!
DeleteItunu! Nice shot and a very interesting one. I would like advice all who would dare to try with their married partner whether male or female to please have themselves tested for certain micro organism that might be harmful to the body in future. Women could do 1. Vagina Swab (HVS) 2.VDRL 3.Urine MCS while the Men would do 1. Urine (culture and Analysis) 2.VDRL. These testing gives some level of comfort to both couple to write the Oral interCOURSE exams without the fear of failure or missing scripts. Thanks for this write up once again!
ReplyDeletevery intelligent and insightful. Thank you soo much!
DeleteWow! Beautiful piece/write up. Tbh I don't even personally know where I stand on oral sex really yet, but I dont think it shouldn't be disregarded especially if it is between married couples and as long as both are super comfortable with it/each other. And just like you, I am supposedly "old skool" according to the 21st century(team sexual inactive before marriage). So kudos for this write up, because it was interesting to read.
ReplyDeleteI think you should write or delve into unfaithfulness in marriage as a topic too. It's scary how it is now a norm.
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oh wow will definitely do something on that.
Deleteglad you enjoyed the read.
Thank you
The comments are very interesting and worth learning from too! :). I agree with literally all.
ReplyDeleteThe last comment about getting tested for micro organisms...., is very insightful.
Thank you for taking time to post these thoughtful words. This aspect of married life is critically important, and young couples should understand this information leading up to their marriage. Failure to do so could invite Satan into their home.
ReplyDeletevery true. thank you for reading! :)
DeleteSimply on point!
ReplyDeleteThank you for reading :)
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