THE RHEDRUBY: September 2015

Are Gentlemen still Alive??

LIFESTYLE Monday, September 28, 2015

I remember seeing this picture on a Social media platform.

I was impressed and it immediately got me thinking if truly there are still a few gentlemen alive.

Try to think about all the times or moments you were taking a walk with your boo/man/partner and you tripped or fell severally; yes honey! your man ain't a gentleman *tongue out*

If he was paying close attention, he should have noticed and said, hey baby! watch your step.

Or remember how many times he took you shopping and you had to carry more than half of the shopping bags. Oh wait! He does not even take you shopping? OK maybe he is so busy or you are so busy he would rather buy you stuff at his convenience or do a wire transfer to you; then you go do the shopping yourself. Technically this example might not fly for everyone but you get my point.

Why would Kim K with her history have someone treat her so beautifully; I mean some of us secretly feel her kind of man is one that slaps her and treats her poorly....... *may I say a prayer for you evil-hearted people that ever thought like that :(*

Every woman wants to be appreciated, pampered and loved; I think our virtuous/godly christian women should be treated even better...SOMEBODY SAY YEEESSSS!

We want a lot of things from and in a/our man.

We need someone who can help us cook when we are tired; a man that can help us out without us asking or asking more than once.

Oh how we love so much affection from our man.

Someone who is polite, observant: notices the new hair or nails we have on and compliments it, shows us off to his friends, is sensitive to our feelings and not extremely blunt or sarcastic, oh how amazing if he sends me a text or calls me in the middle of the day.

Offers to carry my bag, buys unexpected gifts and opens the door for me.

WE ALL DESERVE A GENTLEMAN *smiles* well most of us, Lol!

Here are a couple of things we(ladies) expect from a gentleman especially ON A FIRST DATE.

Pay attention to how you dress/look-

Your personal style is very important, so you must define it.

A classy, clean, neat and matured look screams GENTLEMAN.

A clean shave cannot be over emphasized.

Clothes should not be torn, faded, ill fitted or smelly. It does not have to cost much, it just has to come together to give a good appearance.

2. Maintain proper hygiene.

Bathe properly, get good deodorants, refresh your breathe with mints, comb hair properly.

3. Mind your language and behavior-

Avoid swear words or foul language. Be honest but not rude or insensitive.

Try not to stare at other areas of her body but maintain eye contact.

Rather than saying- "Your behind looks great in that dress" say something like, "you look good/lovely"

Avoid being too blunt and go easy on your personal or sarcastic jokes; it is usually very rude.

Do not burp/belch, fart, shout, grab your pants in public.

Remember to give a firm handshake; give two up/down shakes, and then release.If someone does not hold out their hand to shake, simply nod your head and proceed as if nothing has happened if she offers to hug you, oblige her and keep your hands in a safe place.

4. If you ask her out on a date, offer to pay with the intention to actually pay.