SHOULD YOUR WEDDING COST A FORTUNE OR CAUSE A DISASTER?
Friday, October 23, 2015
First of all, it is like the whole world seems to be getting
married around this period *thinks aloud*
I love ‘love stories’ ‘happy endings or should I say
beginnings, I love to see friendships build and blossom into something beautiful
such as a wonderful marriage. I am not against marriage; if you follow my blog closely
you would know that I believe marriage is ordained by God.
This post is born out of my thoughts on how the wedding ceremony is given more priority than building and strengthening the relationship before marriage. SO HERE WE GO!
Thankfully He has proposed marriage, and you said YES, next
thing is wedding planning and preparation.
If you attend a good church, you are
expected to go for pre-wedding counselling classes and for most people that
might be the only learning ground before they enter the institution called
marriage.
Little reading or even prayers are personally carried out by the
couple.
All that is on the bride’s or even grooms mind is the WEDDING/CEREMONY.
It amazes me how folks give themselves sleepless nights
because they want to meet up to a particular standard for their wedding. Anyway
what do I know? Lol!
Bridezilla wants the most popular makeup artist,
photographer, events décor, biggest venue just to be the talk of her friends,
impress family members, and show off to colleagues at work.
Oh how desperately some
brides want to be featured on Bella NAIJA, I EVEN HEARD SOME brides pay to have
their pictures put up on the BN platform, Egbami o! (Collect me) Even instagram
does not charge money for picture posting, LOL!
I remember how one of my social media contacts; a makeup
artist was complaining about one of her clients, a bride; the bride nearly cut
off her head because her wedding picture was not featured on those popular
wedding sites…… I laughed so hard!
I know of a couple that paid for a venue of about a million
naira for their wedding and for the first 6 months of their marriage, they didn’t
have their own apartment; they were squatting with another couple. SORRY O BUT IS
THAT WISDOM?
Some others go a-borrowing for a wedding, others go a-stealing
or a-fighting.
There is no need to task people for money or start demanding
people give you money for your wedding because of favours they owe you, just do
a budget according to what you(the couple and their family can afford) that is
if your family is interested in helping out.
If you can afford a big/luxury wedding ceremony please go
ahead, if not enjoy your wedding with what you can afford.
The most important
thing is to have a great marriage and not drill a hole in other people’s
pockets as well as yours. If you don't mind drinking garri flakes after your wedding, some of us do o, Lol!
Now here is another part that concerns me, should everyone
around you go broke because you are getting married? *ok bye*
I mean Nigerian brides are not smiling with the expensive
aso-ebi (party or ceremonial uniform)
If you do not know what a party uniform is; here is a pictorial example below.
Imagine five (5) of your close friends are getting married in just
one quarter. Each aso ebi costs twenty to twenty five thousand naira(N20,000 to N25,000) or about $80 so that is about a hundred thousand naira(N100,000) if you decide
to buy it all, God help you if you are equally on the bridal train; that is an
additional 100k excluding cost of your hair extensions, makeup (there would most likely be a
professional makeup artist on ground) shoes and so on.
I am sure some of my visitors, friends or readers might be angry reading this post, especially if they are guilty one way or the other, LOL! You know i love you guys that is why i did a whole blog post in your honor. *Hugs and kisses*
In the bid to have a memorable event, it is important to plan properly, you and your partner must be in sync/agreement on the necessary things to put in place; also try not to impress anyone.
Alot of fights happen during ceremonies especially during planning, please try to avoid it as much as possible; you are starting a new stage in your life, you need less grudges and should try to create less enemies.
Focus on getting a good enough place to stay after the wedding(accomodation), plan a good honeymoon spot if you wish, set aside some funds for the first 6 months to one year BEFORE you even think of the wedding expenses.
Also for try to get good bargains for the wedding, normally vendors inflate prices especially for weddings; Do not let them rip you off! Also don't rip them off *winks*
Be a happy but wise couple!
LOVE, Rhedruby
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7 comments
i totally agree with you. some people are so consumed with the thoughts of a perfect wedding that they forget to prepare for a perfect marriage.
ReplyDeleteLmao.... dt makrup artist shud have helped d bride's career....
ReplyDeleteMy dear ehn. .. too much money... and yet they say d econimy is hard
I am not saying one shudnt have d wedding of his or her dreams... but hey!!! If u've got d million dollars to spend and b happy, spend it
lol!
Deleteyou are very correct
very true. a wedding is one event. but the marriage itself is a very long journey. you can have the fairy tale wedding but sensibly
ReplyDeleteemphasis on SENSIBLY.
DeleteHi Ruby, Nigeria is a very materialistic place where everything is measured in terms of money. People prefer to hassle you for financial assistance for their weddings as if you are obligated to assist. Spend millions on weddings and still be paying off loans after. It is well
ReplyDeletei totally agree.
DeleteAmen
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