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THE NEW YEAR: BELIEVERS WAY TO START!

#newyear Tuesday, January 14, 2014

Everyone all over the world is always expectant for the New Year. New Year resolutions, parties’ etc but as Christians we need to learn the God kind of way to enter and sustain the revival.

I learnt these principles in my spiritual house from my spiritual father and I want to share with you. Here are some of the principles.

1. Be expectant: ‘Expectation is the mother of manifestation’, David Oyedepo. It is important not to let the negative experiences of the previous year affect your positive mindset for your tomorrow. If we do not expect or thirst, there would be nothing for God to fill, so BE EXPECTANT! Proverbs 23;18

2. Be thankful, avoid murmuring and complaints. God hates murmuring and complaints so much. The Israelites spent years journeying in the wilderness because God wanted to remove that spirit of murmuring and complaints; a journey that should have just taken days. It’s easier to complain as humans but we must always remember the scripture Psalms 100:4 I especially love the message translation that says Enter with the password THANK YOU! There is no other way to enter into the presence of God than through thanksgiving.

3. Fasting and prayer; this is one of my favorites. Whenever I need a new thing or I want to embark on something new I go on a fast (abstinence from food and setting aside time to pray and hear from God) it is an amazing formula that I think all Christians should adopt, it has never failed for me. Matthew 17; 21. Also a lot of churches would declare or have declared a fast, a lot of Christians do not follow church instructions on fast and that is not biblical. We are all under spiritual authority and need to submit Matthew 10;41

4. Maximize everyday: Psalm 90: 12, proverbs 8:34. We must be accountable for each day that goes by. Days make up weeks, weeks make up months and months make up years; so we cannot over emphasize the importance of each day. This year, do not let each day run by without been accounted for.

5. Have a vision: Having a vision would determine the kind of friends you make and the ones you keep; it would affect ones finances and spending. It gives a reason to live and increases ones drive to take on a new day. Proverbs 29;18

6. Run with a word: Habakkuk 2:2. It is important to have a word from God to hold one to for the rest of the year. It could be a church theme or individual scripture given to one by God. Running without a word is like walking without direction. You cannot start a race without knowing THE FINISH LINE.

It is Gods wish for us all to have an amazing year and torture the kingdom of the devil, we as Christians need to follow principles of God and not enter the year empty.

HAVE A GREAT 2014 DEAR READER. I CELEBRATE YOU!

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WHAT WOMEN SAY: WHAT MEN HEAR-2

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In the last post, we discussed on how sometimes men and women have challenges in properly communicating and what causes that challenge.

Here are some more scenarios on how and why communication gap comes about and how it can be bridged.When a woman says,' You don't love me anymore"

She means, I am feeling unloved.

The man interprets- I am not a good lover/husband, there is probably someone else showing you more love outside. I am an incompetent lover. The man hears this and starts to think of recent acts of love he has shown to his partner and he concludes that she is ungrateful. He sees the statement as an evaluation of his love and commitment.

When a woman says, " You don't help me around the house"

She means, I am a bit tired, i would like you to help me more also show appreciation when i clean up after you or do your laundry.

A amn is likely to hear- I am lazy, untidy and irresponsible. My efforst to help are not recognized. What about helping out financially, DOESNT THAT COUNT!

A woman says,' You dont share any issue with tme

She means, I wish we would talk more and make more plans together. I do not want to feel left out of anything.

The man hears/interprets; i am been secretive and I am hiding things from you. I am not been a good communicator.

These slight disagreements may escalate and become heated when in the bid for the man to defend himself, the woman interprets it as his usual and regular insensitivity and unwillingness to take correction. It is important for us women to note and the guys are not excluded on this too, that we must check how our statements would be received on the other end. Ask ourselves these questions.

How would i feel if i was asked the question in this same way?

Am i speaking emotion/ego or fact?

How does my partner really feel?

For the ladies we could try, Please help me take out the trash or Darling, kindly return the stool when you are done instead of You dnt help me around the house.

Also lets talk about the plans you have for the family this month, i want to be more involved other than You don't tell me anything.

COMMUNICATION is key and we ought to get it right,keep working till its right!

Lovely week guys.

I Celebrate You!!!

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WHAT WOMEN SAY; WHAT MEN HEAR!

Love Sunday, December 01, 2013

Joanne: You dont love me anymore.

Jack: Huh? *raises eyebrow* I took you out two days ago and the jewelry and shoes you are wearing are all gifts from me.

Joanne: I can hardly get through to you, you never understand me. You know what?! Forget it!

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Bisi: You hardly help me, especially around the house.

Chuks: Haba babe! I just got you a washing mashing and paid for house cleaning service.

Bisi: That's not helping. I wonder why i bother sharing my thoughts with you. Never mind; would do it alone.

Sometimes i wonder why there is so much communication gap between the two sexes and why it takes quite a while to understand each other. A Lady can't understand why he gives that look when she says something she thinks even a toddler should understand or why he keeps mute when she needs replies.She comes up with different ideas and conclusions in her head; He is immature, so insensitive, very uncaring, too emotional for a man EEEESSSHHH!!!! Lol! Well maybe there is a reason other than these negatives.

Most communication issues in relationships stem from a lack of understanding of the basic difference in men and women communication style.

Women are emotional communicators

Men are evaluative communicators

Women are majorly concerned about relating their views and feelings. They act on emotions: saying it how HOT it is in their hearts. She wants her partner to understand the emotional implication of his actions. In doing this we either succeed in making our partners feel more responsible or horrible; more often than not we make them feel horrible.

Men being logical thinkers and evaluative communicators read facts from what women try to communicate as against the emotions she is trying to pass across. In simpler terms, he takes it 'personal'.

More so, the man's ego and need for respect also affect his interpretation and consequent reaction to the woman.

In our next post we would examine more scenarios and discuss how best to COMMUNICATE!

Have a great week

Celebrate YOU!!!!!

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HOMOSEXUALITY: THERE IS FORGIVENESS AND A WAY OUT!

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HOMOSEXUALS;ARE THEY BORN THAT WAY????

#nohomo Saturday, September 21, 2013

Homosexuality as defined by experts is a romantic attraction, sexual attraction or sexual activity between members of the same sex or gender. It is called lesbianism when it’s among females.

In the book of Leviticus 18:22 the bible says, “You shall not lay with a man as with a woman, this is an abomination” New King James Version. New Living translation of the bible says, “Do not practice homosexuality; it is a detestable sin.”

In our present day, some studies show that or rather try to make people believe that there is some ‘natural’ alteration in their body chemistry that draws them(homosexuals) to persons of the same sex and as such they have to or ought to be free.

Jude 1 verses 5-7 recounts the story of Sodom and Gomorrah, where God sent an angel to wipe out/ destroy a whole city because of this detestable act!

I then ask myself when I hear people say homosexuals are born that way; why would God wipe out a nation for homosexuality if He created them that way or if He intended for them to act that way. God may as well strike me down because my skin is colored or because I have thick skin.

Also the implication of this is that if I am a thief, a liar, a rapist, terrorist, addict or anything else I could claim that God made me that way.

IT IS OBVIOUSLY NOT GOD’S WISH OR PLAN and He wants to protect us from this demonic and unnatural passion. It’s a plan of the devil and it dates back to bible days and is not just a present evil. Genesis chapter 19 tells us about the angels of God that visited Lot. In the first verses of this chapter, the men of Sodom openly wanted to have sexual relations with the angels who happened to be Lots visitors. These men even refused to have sexual relations with females. A set of stoned hearted sexually perverted men!

Presently a lot of Television shows, series, and movies are trying to paint homosexuality as a way to go. They show them as great parents to their adopted children, they portray them as great neighbors, they make homosexuality look normal and are trying to make present and coming generation believe that they should be open minded and be free with their sexuality. Some other countries are legalizing same sex marriages.

This is part of the mastermind of the devil to get his ideas more and more into our heads and the church and bible believers should not sit down and cross our legs whilst this is happening.

GOD HELP US!

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