“God created marriage. No government subcommittee envisioned it. No social organisation developed it. Marriage was conceived and born in the mind of God and Only God Can Sustain It.” ~ Max Lucado

“Sexual expression within a marriage is not an option or an extra. It is certainly not, as it has sometimes been considered, a necessary evil in which spiritual Christians engage only to procreate children. It is far more than a physical act. God created it to be the expression an experience of love on the deepest human level and to be a beautiful and powerful bond between husband and wife.” ~ John MacArthur

“Sex appeal alone is the poorest basis in the world for a happy marriage.” ~ John R. Rice

“God intends and expects marriage to be a lifetime commitment between a man and a woman, based on the principles of biblical love. The relationship between Jesus Christ and His church is the supreme example of the committed love that a husband and wife are to follow in their relationship with each other.” ~ John C. Broger“

To solve a marriage problem, you have to talk with each other about it, choosing wisely the time and place. But when accusations and lengthy speeches of defense fill the dialogue, the partners are not talking to each other but past each other. Take care to listen more than you speak. If you still can’t agree on a solution, consider asking a third party, without a vested interest, to mediate.” ~ R.C. Sproul

“Many marriages would be better if the husband and the wife clearly understood that they are on the same side.” ~ Zig Ziglar

In the last post, we discussed on how sometimes men and women have challenges in properly communicating and what causes that challenge.

Here are some more scenarios on how and why communication gap comes about and how it can be bridged.When a woman says,' You don't love me anymore"

She means, I am feeling unloved.

The man interprets- I am not a good lover/husband, there is probably someone else showing you more love outside. I am an incompetent lover. The man hears this and starts to think of recent acts of love he has shown to his partner and he concludes that she is ungrateful. He sees the statement as an evaluation of his love and commitment.

 

 

When a woman says, " You don't help me around the house"

She means, I am a bit tired, i would like you to help me more also show appreciation when i clean up after you or do your laundry.

A amn is likely to hear- I am lazy, untidy and irresponsible. My efforst to help are not recognized. What about helping out financially, DOESNT THAT COUNT!

A woman says,' You dont share any issue with tme

She means, I wish we would talk more and make more plans together. I do not want to feel left out of anything.

The man hears/interprets; i am been secretive and I am hiding things from you. I am not been a good communicator.

These slight disagreements may escalate and become heated when in the bid for the man to defend himself, the woman interprets it as his usual and regular insensitivity and unwillingness to take correction. It is important for us women to note and the guys are not excluded on this too, that we must check how our statements would be received on the other end. Ask ourselves these questions.

How would i feel if i was asked the question in this same way?

Am i speaking emotion/ego or fact?

How does my partner really feel?

For the ladies we could try, Please help me take out the trash or Darling, kindly return the stool when you are done instead of You dnt help me around the house.

Also lets talk about the plans you have for the family this month, i want to be more involved other than You don't tell me anything.

COMMUNICATION is key and we ought to get it right,keep working till its right!

Lovely week guys.

I Celebrate You!!!

Procreation was also in God’s plan but only in the content of marriage. He intended that the man and woman would come together in marriage and give birth to children, who would also find partners and give birth, continuing the cycle and achieving God’s plan of multiplying and replenishing the earth.