Joanne: You dont love me anymore.

Jack: Huh? *raises eyebrow* I took you out two days ago and the jewelry and shoes you are wearing are all gifts from me.

Joanne: I can hardly get through to you, you never understand me. You know what?! Forget it!

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Bisi: You hardly help me, especially around the house.

Chuks: Haba babe! I just got you a washing mashing and paid for house cleaning service.

Bisi: That's not helping. I wonder why i bother sharing my thoughts with you. Never mind; would do it alone.

Sometimes i wonder why there is so much communication gap between the two sexes and why it takes quite a while to understand each other. A Lady can't understand why he gives that look when she says something she thinks even a toddler should understand or why he keeps mute when she needs replies.She comes up with different ideas and conclusions in her head; He is immature, so insensitive, very uncaring, too emotional for a man EEEESSSHHH!!!! Lol! Well maybe there is a reason other than these negatives.

Most communication issues in relationships stem from a lack of understanding of the basic difference in men and women communication style.

Women are emotional communicators

Men are evaluative communicators

Women are majorly concerned about relating their views and feelings. They act on emotions: saying it how HOT it is in their hearts. She wants her partner to understand the emotional implication of his actions. In doing this we either succeed in making our partners feel more responsible or horrible; more often than not we make them feel horrible.

Men being logical thinkers and evaluative communicators read facts from what women try to communicate as against the emotions she is trying to pass across. In simpler terms, he takes it 'personal'.

More so, the man's ego and need for respect also affect his interpretation and consequent reaction to the woman.

In our next post we would examine more scenarios and  discuss how best to COMMUNICATE!

Have a great week

Celebrate YOU!!!!!