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Sex is like legos

#MARRIEDCOUPLES Tuesday, July 15, 2014

This is a message from a christian wife and mother. True and touching!
Sex as you all should know...errrm I assume we all know,is and ought to be in marriage :D
God wishes that we should enjoy it as married couples.
More stories like this to come on the blog!
Anyway this is what she said;

Sex is a lot like Legos

. …OK, cut me some slack. As the mom of three boys, there seem to be legos everywhere I look. Still, I think it is a good analogy.

The first time a child sees a box of legos, he might be naïve enough to think that the box actually contains a toy that looks like the cool picture on the front. Imagine his disappointment when he opens the legos to find hundreds of seemingly random pieces of plastic instead of the Batmobile that was promised by the box cover. The genius and fun of legos is creativity. First, you follow the directions and build the design represented on the box. But then no child can resist the desire to build something new, to tear the blocks apart and start another creation. Back to sex… the world may have painted for you a picture on the box… a blissful experience of exquisite pleasure and oneness. Perhaps you have been surprised and disappointed to find that sex has created more conflict in your marriage than intimacy, more pain than pleasure. The metaphoric “pieces” of this gift seem to be strewn around your bedroom, bearing no semblance to the gift you were promised. Every marriage experiences some obstacle in physical intimacy. Differences in desire, medical issues, recovery from sexual abuse, baggage from poor choices in the past, involvement with porn, a poor body image to name just a few. I’m sure you’ve had periods of your marriage, as I have, in which you ask God, “Wasn’t this supposed to be a gift? With all due respect, God, I think the gift is broken. Any chance I can exchange it for something else?” The Lord asks you to view the gift of sex as a gift of building. Just like that box of legos, the joy is found in creating. Regardless of the frustration and difficulty you face in physical intimacy, the Lord wants to build something far more precious than a few moments of physical ecstasy. Unselfishness, grace, forgiveness, unconditional acceptance… each can be forged within the furnace of seeking the Lord through the obstacles you face in the bedroom. Will you invite Him to build?

Questions to ponder: How is sex like legos in your marriage? What does the Lord want you to “build” together?

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Dressing sexy: Modesty and marriage

LIFESTYLE Friday, June 27, 2014

Dr. Juli Slattery

Much has been written for Christian women on the topic of modesty and most of it is addressed to single women. But do those standards of modesty change once you slip a wedding ring on your finger? If so, how?

Actress Candace Cameron Bure made this question a matter of public discussion with some of her statements regarding what she would wear on Dancing with the Stars. I think she communicates a wonderful balance: "I'm not gonna be your sexy girl. I'm a mom of three kids, so I want to look good and feel beautiful, but I will probably stay on the more modest end of costuming . . . I won't be the sexiest one out there," she said. "I am a mom, and I want to be a good role model for my children and my husband. But I think for each dance we'll wear what reflects the dance but in the most classy way possible."

While you probably won't have people blogging about what you chose to wear to work this week, you do have to wrestle with similar questions. Is it okay to dress "sexy?" Does modesty mean you have to wear burlap? Where should you draw the line?

Two extremes

A married woman should feel freedom to wear anything and nothing in the privacy of her bedroom. But when she walks out of the house, she needs to be considerate of modesty. Just because your husband can look at your body, that doesn't mean other men should.

If you learned as a teen or young adult to get attention from guys by how you dressed, then you may still have that desire as a married woman. It can feel good and give you a sense of power when you attract the gaze of men. But remember: The power of your sexuality and beauty was given to you to captivate your husband.

This can get tricky, though, in marriages where the husband wants to "show off" his wife. He may want other men to be jealous of the woman he takes home at night. Your husband might even encourage you to dress a bit provocatively. But think about this: Is that really what's best for your husband, your marriage, and even the guys (single or married) who are tempted to take a second look at you?

On the other side of the spectrum are women who go to an extreme to avoid looking sexy. Perhaps because of body-image issues, or a fear of unwanted attention, or a misunderstanding of what modesty means, these women don't put any effort into looking attractive. I went through this stage when I was home every day with three little boys. To be honest, I was just too tired to care—not to mention that anything I put on was soon covered by spit up, pee, or leaking breast milk! But at some point, I needed to stop wearing sweatpants and get back to being a woman.

Modest . . . and attractive

For most of our husbands, how we look is important—and not just how we look in the bedroom. Whether they say so or not, they appreciate us putting some effort into looking attractive. But we certainly don't have to cross the line of "sexy" in order to feel attractive. Save that for the bedroom!

Standards of modesty are impacted by culture and personal experiences. What is considered modest in rural Georgia may be very different from what a New Yorker considers to be modest. And what is appropriate at LA Fitness may not be a good choice for church.

Clothes (along with makeup, jewelry, and so on) should be an appropriate expression of who we are and should also take into consideration where we are. What do you want to communicate about yourself to the outside world? Like it or not, people form first impressions largely based on how you look. Modesty is about more than a list of rules of what to wear or not wear. It is a choice to express priorities, values, and personality without speaking a word.

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