THE RHEDRUBY

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#bellanaija Thursday, October 29, 2015

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SHOULD YOUR WEDDING COST A FORTUNE OR CAUSE A DISASTER?

#WEDDINGS #RHEDRUBY #EVENTS Friday, October 23, 2015

First of all, it is like the whole world seems to be getting married around this period *thinks aloud*

I love ‘love stories’ ‘happy endings or should I say beginnings, I love to see friendships build and blossom into something beautiful such as a wonderful marriage. I am not against marriage; if you follow my blog closely you would know that I believe marriage is ordained by God.

This post is born out of my thoughts on how the wedding ceremony is given more priority than building and strengthening the relationship before marriage. SO HERE WE GO!

Thankfully He has proposed marriage, and you said YES, next thing is wedding planning and preparation.

If you attend a good church, you are expected to go for pre-wedding counselling classes and for most people that might be the only learning ground before they enter the institution called marriage.

Little reading or even prayers are personally carried out by the couple.

All that is on the bride’s or even grooms mind is the WEDDING/CEREMONY.

It amazes me how folks give themselves sleepless nights because they want to meet up to a particular standard for their wedding. Anyway what do I know? Lol!

Bridezilla wants the most popular makeup artist, photographer, events décor, biggest venue just to be the talk of her friends, impress family members, and show off to colleagues at work.

Oh how desperately some brides want to be featured on Bella NAIJA, I EVEN HEARD SOME brides pay to have their pictures put up on the BN platform, Egbami o! (Collect me) Even instagram does not charge money for picture posting, LOL!

I remember how one of my social media contacts; a makeup artist was complaining about one of her clients, a bride; the bride nearly cut off her head because her wedding picture was not featured on those popular wedding sites…… I laughed so hard!

I know of a couple that paid for a venue of about a million naira for their wedding and for the first 6 months of their marriage, they didn’t have their own apartment; they were squatting with another couple. SORRY O BUT IS THAT WISDOM?

Some others go a-borrowing for a wedding, others go a-stealing or a-fighting.

There is no need to task people for money or start demanding people give you money for your wedding because of favours they owe you, just do a budget according to what you(the couple and their family can afford) that is if your family is interested in helping out.

If you can afford a big/luxury wedding ceremony please go ahead, if not enjoy your wedding with what you can afford.

The most important thing is to have a great marriage and not drill a hole in other people’s pockets as well as yours. If you don't mind drinking garri flakes after your wedding, some of us do o, Lol!

Now here is another part that concerns me, should everyone around you go broke because you are getting married? *ok bye*

I mean Nigerian brides are not smiling with the expensive aso-ebi (party or ceremonial uniform)

If you do not know what a party uniform is; here is a pictorial example below.

Imagine five (5) of your close friends are getting married in just one quarter. Each aso ebi costs twenty to twenty five thousand naira(N20,000 to N25,000) or about $80 so that is about a hundred thousand naira(N100,000) if you decide to buy it all, God help you if you are equally on the bridal train; that is an additional 100k excluding cost of your hair extensions, makeup (there would most likely be a professional makeup artist on ground) shoes and so on.

I am sure some of my visitors, friends or readers might be angry reading this post, especially if they are guilty one way or the other, LOL! You know i love you guys that is why i did a whole blog post in your honor. *Hugs and kisses*

In the bid to have a memorable event, it is important to plan properly, you and your partner must be in sync/agreement on the necessary things to put in place; also try not to impress anyone.

Alot of fights happen during ceremonies especially during planning, please try to avoid it as much as possible; you are starting a new stage in your life, you need less grudges and should try to create less enemies.

Focus on getting a good enough place to stay after the wedding(accomodation), plan a good honeymoon spot if you wish, set aside some funds for the first 6 months to one year BEFORE you even think of the wedding expenses.

Also for try to get good bargains for the wedding, normally vendors inflate prices especially for weddings; Do not let them rip you off! Also don't rip them off *winks*

Be a happy but wise couple!

LOVE, Rhedruby

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Are Gentlemen still Alive??

LIFESTYLE Monday, September 28, 2015

I remember seeing this picture on a Social media platform.

I was impressed and it immediately got me thinking if truly there are still a few gentlemen alive.

Try to think about all the times or moments you were taking a walk with your boo/man/partner and you tripped or fell severally; yes honey! your man ain't a gentleman *tongue out*

If he was paying close attention, he should have noticed and said, hey baby! watch your step.

Or remember how many times he took you shopping and you had to carry more than half of the shopping bags. Oh wait! He does not even take you shopping? OK maybe he is so busy or you are so busy he would rather buy you stuff at his convenience or do a wire transfer to you; then you go do the shopping yourself. Technically this example might not fly for everyone but you get my point.

Why would Kim K with her history have someone treat her so beautifully; I mean some of us secretly feel her kind of man is one that slaps her and treats her poorly....... *may I say a prayer for you evil-hearted people that ever thought like that :(*

Every woman wants to be appreciated, pampered and loved; I think our virtuous/godly christian women should be treated even better...SOMEBODY SAY YEEESSSS!

We want a lot of things from and in a/our man.

We need someone who can help us cook when we are tired; a man that can help us out without us asking or asking more than once.

Oh how we love so much affection from our man.

Someone who is polite, observant: notices the new hair or nails we have on and compliments it, shows us off to his friends, is sensitive to our feelings and not extremely blunt or sarcastic, oh how amazing if he sends me a text or calls me in the middle of the day.

Offers to carry my bag, buys unexpected gifts and opens the door for me.

WE ALL DESERVE A GENTLEMAN *smiles* well most of us, Lol!

Here are a couple of things we(ladies) expect from a gentleman especially ON A FIRST DATE.

Pay attention to how you dress/look-

Your personal style is very important, so you must define it.

A classy, clean, neat and matured look screams GENTLEMAN.

A clean shave cannot be over emphasized.

Clothes should not be torn, faded, ill fitted or smelly. It does not have to cost much, it just has to come together to give a good appearance.

2. Maintain proper hygiene.

Bathe properly, get good deodorants, refresh your breathe with mints, comb hair properly.

3. Mind your language and behavior-

Avoid swear words or foul language. Be honest but not rude or insensitive.

Try not to stare at other areas of her body but maintain eye contact.

Rather than saying- "Your behind looks great in that dress" say something like, "you look good/lovely"

Avoid being too blunt and go easy on your personal or sarcastic jokes; it is usually very rude.

Do not burp/belch, fart, shout, grab your pants in public.

Remember to give a firm handshake; give two up/down shakes, and then release.If someone does not hold out their hand to shake, simply nod your head and proceed as if nothing has happened if she offers to hug you, oblige her and keep your hands in a safe place.

4. If you ask her out on a date, offer to pay with the intention to actually pay.