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Pretty but single; whose fault is that?

Christian living Tuesday, August 25, 2015

Jojo: Hmmm my sister, brothers are blind o! They are not just blind, they are lazy! They don't want to chase a lady, they just want you on a platter of gold.

Kiki: Oh we'll you have a point but I am sure there are still some good ones out there?
Speaking of good brothers, how is that guy in your office, Tola or is it Tobi?

Jojo: *rolls eyes* that short guy?!? Abeg! Plus I can't do office romance o, not my thing.

Kiki: Ok.*sighs* uhm I have to go now! Meeting up with my hubby for lunch in 30minutes.
Talk to you later Jojo.

Jojo: Bye darling. Greet oga for us o........*hangs up*

Jojo is a Christian. She is a 29 year old lady, successful banker, lives in her own apartment,
recently got herself another car.

With a sweet caramel complexion, powerful 1.80m (5ft’9) and nice hips, she is definitely a
head turner whenever she walks into any room.

Just a little issue, she is not yet married.....errrrm rhedruby why should that be an issue,

Must we all be married? Is there any big deal in marriage?

Reader: Oh please, don’t sound so Nigerian!!!! I love my space, privacy and singleness.....
can't deal with any man's crap behaviour.

Rhedruby: Good luck getting a man with that attitude!

Reader: *screams* I don't need a man.

Rhedruby: Oh my dear, there is a man that needs you. You see! God ordained marriage for you...yes you! and a man to come together to fulfill purpose, raise godly children and for
sexual pleasure. He intends that the two of you would have the "doubler effect". He also
expects that you have sex only in marriage.....there ain't no intentional baby mama situation here hunnie!

So beautiful sister in The Lord, lol! Bring your head back here!

Marriage is not a punishment, it is God’s gift to us as His children.

Reader: *rolls eyes*

Rhedruby: I feel your pain though!

Society puts pressure on ladies to get married on or before a certain age. This pressure
produces different results/responses/reactions; some ladies become desperate and scared,
some revolt or completely shut their minds off love and marriage because they cannot be
controlled by some sick and backward societal expectation. Jeez!

Even some churches are not helping.....you see captions like.....I must receive my husband or I die.......my year of divine marriage......

People miss the mark on this as a lot of people do not realize that one ought to follow God and His principles because He ordained marriage. God puts no pressure on us nor ridicules us,
rather gives us the blueprint on how to have a fabulous life; marriage inclusive! Your

life is not tied to anyone rather God wants us to relate with each other and not ride solo.

Rhedruby: Lol! So back to the matter, you have it all going on girl, why are you single?

Reader: Ok o! Well my aunts say I am picky. *shrugs*

Rhedruby: Are you?

Reader: Ha!!!! Who isn't? If you like don't be picky, I can't marry just anybody now.
Trust me he has to be 6ft and above, handsome, rich, generous, respectful, faithful, funny,
powerful dresser, perfect gentleman, sensitive to my needs, clean, patient, great listener,
humble, loves my body, top notch personal hygiene.....

I mean don’t even think about talking to me if you have a funky/nasty breathe! Is that too
much to ask?

Maybe I should just date a married man they seem to understand our needs better.

Rhedruby: It is good to have standards and yes, physical attraction is important but that is not all to it. You must understand yourself (know what you want, really need and your life
goals, know the kind of man that can help you achieve those goals and purpose; determine
what you can stand or can't deal with as regards behavior and personal qualities)

Also know that an imperfect lady can't be seeking a perfect man.......the list of qualities goes
on and on......

We could be very unrealistic as no man has all the qualities; just like you have your
imperfections, he does too you know!!!

There ought to be a balance between real needs and fantasy. There are qualities that can be built or improved upon.

A lot of our ‘ideal’ men are married. Some other woman has added some things to the man,
she has worked on him/help him improve on his character (dress sense, emotions as the case may be) to help him become a better person, the better person you see now and think has
always been perfect from birth!

Go get your own work(man) hunnie! Keep your eyes and hands off another woman’s
hardwork.

Plus if you talk to that woman, (his wife) he is still not perfect, he just appears to be perfect
to you!

Reader: Hmmm! Long story!! Anyway I get but honestly o it is even hard to meet a nice
guy these days. Like they do not exist anymore. How do these ladies meet these men by theway?. I am fed up with all these rude and insensitive guys around these days. Don’t even get me started with all their pick-up lines!

Sickening!!!!

Some don't even know how to call/keep up a conversation, only bbm messages....hiss!!!

Rhedruby: You might not need to meet someone new. I am sure you have very good and
nice male friends, you know those ones you 'friend-zoned. You probably met him years ago
and He might have shown some form of interest or fondness for you but you shut it down
saying you are just friends.

You must understand that when it comes to marriage God does not put it out of your reach. Someone you went to school with, someone you work with or have worked with, a friend or
relation of your colleague, a friend of a friend, a project partner might be “the one”.

Someone in your catchment area as well.
The kind of man you are fantasizing about may never come because he is out of your reach
and you are “out of his”, or errrr DOES NOT EXIST!! So let us be realistic!

It does not have to be magical or fairy-tale like, marriage is real and so is the process of it.
It might just be as natural as a Hi or Hello.

Reader: Oh my gosh! You are speaking of George. We were super close before he got
married. Wonderful man! So sad he got away.

I see your point Rhed.

Rhedruby: I am glad you do.

Your character as a woman is also very important, of course it is for a man but even the bible emphasizes on virtue for the woman. You ought to always be good and kind!

You are not working on your character just because you are positioning to meet a good

Man, but because your Christianity should be expressed positively in good character and

not just in mere proclamation of Christianity; God requires it of you. Are you arrogant, or
quick tempered, can’t be corrected, unfriendly, rude or nasty? Ditch those things Sis!

Honey! No one is following you from your village o!! Good and Godly Character is important.

Let us develop it.

Ha Yes! Stop sleeping around. Keep your legs closed and head up sis!!!

Don't be the product to be sampled by everyone.

Remember that whatsoever a man sows, he (she) will reap it. If you want God to give you a
good man, you have to be good too, people will generally talk but don't let it be a general
conclusion of you been evil.

Always pray and be positive. Desperation and negativity are very evident in human
behaviour.
Learn to cook and clean.

Don't kill yourself and stop that negative talk! It is repulsive hunnie.

Smile!!! It works like magic.

Finally be patient and happy.

Check out these scriptural references-
Genesis 24:1 to 11
Proverbs 31
Luke 2:52
Ruth 1: 16-17
Malachi 2: 10-11;16
Proverbs 14: 4

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My Birthday Wish List :)

events Friday, July 24, 2015

Hey family!

Hope you missed me as much as I did you?
Sorry I have been away *covers face*

My birthday is in less than two weeks from today. It is on Thursday August 6th, 2015.

Here are a few things I would love to get as birthday gifts. I have put in as much information to ease purchase of these items if you wish to get any or all for me. *hugs* and *kisses*

I pray that The Lord shall provide for you and bless you as you make my dreams come true! Lol!

1. A Nikon D300 camera
As a blogger, good and quality photos are very important. I personally prefer Nikon cameras to Canon.
This one in particular has most of the functions I need.

It is available here.

2. A cake
What is a birthday without a cake? Personal favorites are red velvet or fruit cakes.

3. A vintage bracelet
I am a sucker for accessories. I have boxes filled with them and a girl cannot really get enough of them now can she?

As soon as I laid eyes on this one, I feel in love.

You can get a similar one here

4. The book- God's Generals by Roberts Liardon
I have heard and read a lot of reviews about this book; it is one every Christian ought to read. I do not know why I am yet to get it but I guess that is what God has sent you to do in my life. :)

5. Casual maxi dress
If you hate to do the laundry; ironing precisely, you would understand why these maxi dresses are life savers!
I wear mine in size- Large or U.k size 14.
You can get a similar one here

6. Court shoes

Don't you just love them. Sighs!

I wear them in sizes 41/42(Europe) or 8(U.K)

Get the exact shoes in the picture above here

7. MAKEUP!!!!!

My lifetime love for makeup. Super matte lipstick addict! This is number seven on the list because I believe in the biblical or theologian conclusion that the number seven represents perfection!

Makeup is perfection! Ok bye!

8. Gele-tying tutorial DVD